Hello Blog, it’s me – been a long time …

Hello Blog, it’s me – been a long time … I’ve missed you.

I missed a lot of things in the past nine months. I tried, I really did, but a blog a month was all I managed – why? Well, I didn’t want to write about the main thing in my life back then as it wasn’t only mine to write about, but now, now that my dear and lovely Dad has passed away, and I am just resurfacing, I can say – yes, looking after Dad took most of my ‘spare’ time and all of my emotional effort to remain cheerful and upbeat for him at times when I really wanted to cry. He always hated to be dependant in any way – and I could not let any strain show for his sake.

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Taken just before his 90th birthday

So we saw him though operations and radiotherapy and the realisation that the cancer had come back into his lymph nodes and that nothing more could be done. He had his last wish and died at home in our lovely old house, where he’d lived for the past twenty-seven years, having seen his grandsons arrive from all over the world to sit with him in the last days, hold his hand, talk or watch old episodes of Dad’s Army with him when he was really tired.

Yet, he was 91, an age he’d never expected to reach when he was young. He’d had a varied and interesting life and had achieved much.9781909936904-Perfect_FINAL copy Sadly he never got to see the second volume of his memoirs in print – but he did write it, and I will edit and have it published. However, this second volume only takes him from 18 years to 28, so I will have to add a little to fill in the remaining years even if only in bullet pointed highlights. This is one of my targets for this year, even if my own writing takes a back seat.

I don’t think many people expected to do a music hall sing-along at the funeral tea – but that is just what one of his grandson’s arranged. You see, Dad had been talking about this song two Christmases ago, and it was found and played to him … with resulting laughter all round. Here’s a youtube link to a video of him listening to it:

And this is the original – so you can hear properly what the hilarity is all about.(Note:it pauses half way through to turn the record over!)  Dad would have loved it, proper Cockney humour and a proper old-time sing-along!

So that’s where I have been and what I have been doing while I’ve not been talking to you, dear blog readers…

What has the past nine months brought you? Happy times? Sad?

Do share – because I really do like to hear from you

x
Ann

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4 thoughts on “Hello Blog, it’s me – been a long time …

  1. Oh Ann, I am so sad to read this. What a lovely memory of your dad though that video clip. I have to add I cried as watching it. I know the sadness you all feel, having lost both my parents in 8mths of each other, 8yrs down the line, I still miss them dreadfully. No one can take your memories away and how glad I am that your dad got to write his 2 books. You finish that second one of his and make him proud. x

  2. Hi Lynda,
    Thank you for your lovely and empathetic comments.
    I’m sure there’ll be more about Dad’s book on the blog as I go through it.
    Much love
    Ann

  3. Sorry to hear about your loss Ann
    Thanks for posting the recording. Seems like your Dad has the same kind of humor mine has. My Dad’s favourite saying is: “Nothing is free in life not even death as it cost you your life” . How fabulous that you have his memoirs – what a treasure.
    My prayers are with you and your family in this tough time.

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